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March is Women’s History Month! Let’s celebrate!…
The History Channel features a great lineup of videos about notable women…
Today’s guest is blogger Vedha, whose site is Heart Chronicles. As the father of a young daughter, he wants the world to be a better place for her.
Growing up in South India, he says, “I witnessed a prevailing preference for male children that permeated societal expectations. This cultural inclination, deeply rooted in traditional norms, often manifested in subtle yet impactful ways. From family conversations to community dynamics, the preference for a boy was evident, creating an environment where the birth of a male child was celebrated more fervently. This upbringing instilled in me a heightened awareness of gender dynamics and the disparities that can emerge from ingrained beliefs. Witnessing these preferences, I became increasingly cognizant of the importance of challenging such norms. The skewed gender bias not only shaped perceptions but also influenced life choices for many. As I navigated through this environment, it fueled my commitment to promoting gender equality. I recognized the need for open conversations, education, and a shift in mindset to dismantle these biases. While change may be gradual, the experiences of growing up amid such preferences in South India have fueled my determination to contribute to a more inclusive society—one where the worth of a child is not determined by gender but by their inherent qualities and potential.”

Breaking Chains: Nurturing Tomorrow Without Gender Worries by Vedha
Witnessing the gaze of disappointment in parents’ eyes as they look upon their newborn, solely based on the infant’s gender, evokes a profound mix of anger and sadness within me.
In the delicate moments when a newborn takes their first breath, the world awaits with bated breath, eager to embrace the newest member of the human family. However, in the hallowed halls of parenthood, an age-old concern often lingers – the worry about the gender of the precious arrival. In today’s generation, burdening newborns with societal expectations based on gender is not only antiquated but also unjust, casting a shadow of potential sadness upon their innocent souls.
Parents, entrusted with the sacred responsibility of nurturing life, should be liberated from the weight of worrying about the gender of their child. The essence of parenthood lies not in shaping a child to fit predetermined molds but in fostering an environment where the individuality of each child is celebrated. It is unfair to saddle a newborn with societal expectations that have little bearing on their true essence.
The tears that may well up in the eyes of the newborn, not due to physical discomfort but as a reflection of the expectations projected onto them, is a heartbreaking prospect. The unfairness of a world that greets an infant with preconceived notions about their potential, preferences, and future endeavors is a poignant reminder of the need for a paradigm shift.
In today’s generation, where strides towards equality and inclusivity are championed, it is time to free newborns from the shackles of gender stereotypes. The unbridled joy of parenthood should be centered on unconditional love, the nurturing of individual strengths, and the cultivation of a harmonious environment where children can explore their passions without predetermined constraints.
“Dear parents, let not the gender of your newborn cast shadows on the joyous occasion. In their innocent eyes lies a world of potential and love, untethered by societal expectations. Embrace them with open hearts, for every child is a precious gift, a unique melody in the symphony of life. Let their laughter drown out the whispers of societal norms, and may your love be the guiding light that leads them to a future filled with boundless possibilities.”
As parents gaze into the innocent eyes of their newborn, the focus should be on fostering a world where the child’s unique spirit is allowed to flourish, unburdened by societal expectations. The unfairness of projecting aspirations and limitations based on gender not only stifles the growth of the child but also perpetuates an outdated narrative that has no place in the evolving tapestry of the present generation.
Advocacy for education, awareness, and the eradication of gender bias can pave the way for a world where every life is cherished, regardless of gender, and where cruelty is replaced with compassion and respect for the sanctity of human existence.
In conclusion, today’s generation of parents should liberate themselves from the archaic worry about the gender of their newborns. It is unjust to burden these pure souls with societal expectations that may sow the seeds of sadness. Parenthood, in its purest form, is about fostering an environment where each child can unfold their wings and soar, unencumbered by the unfair weight of predetermined gender roles.
As I reflect on the intricacies of gender in our society, my perspective is deeply influenced by the joy and richness my two beautiful girls bring into my life. Their laughter, curiosity, and unique personalities transcend the limitations that societal norms may sometimes impose. In a world where discussions about gender often unfold with complexity, let us remember the simplicity and beauty that each individual, regardless of gender, contributes to our shared narrative.
Be proud of your kids, each a unique thread weaving their own story, irrespective of gender. Embrace the beauty of their individuality, for in celebrating their journey, we shape a world where love transcends labels and acceptance knows no boundaries.
How are you celebrating Women’s History Month?
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May Vedha’s wish can be fulfilled by God 👌it would be great for human beings ☺️well shared 👌
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thank you, Priti
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Thank you Priti 🙂
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Hey da-AL !! … Sometimes it’s better to be a woman than a man because a lot is expected from a man, be brave, and strong and don’t cry etc …
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Very true. We all need to extend compassion to each other
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It is up to us that our daughters don’t feel that way. No one should feel that they are superior to the other gender. Everyone is equally capable to achieve anything. It is all about providing opportunities equally to everyone.
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Well said and we can all contribute even if we aren’t parents
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Whenever we’re trying to breakdown barriers and stereotypes especially about genders, it’s critical that people from different genders speak out. I feel the same way regarding issues such as Me Too since men need to call out other men when they witness despicable behavior. I appreciate Vedha for thinking about the world he wants to see his daughter grow up in.
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Well said Pete. We each have more influence than we think even in our day to day interactions
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I couldn’t agree more with you Pete. Every person’s feelings count in this world. I come from a part of the world where gender bias is deeply rooted in the culture and mentality of people. I wish I could be part of a small change.
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It’s not long ago that the US was guilty of terrible discrimination. Unfortunately it has much more to go but we have indeed made significant progress
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Nice thought but it will never happen
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We’re making strides already. People forget that freedom and equality take continual effort and growth
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Thanks for the feedback and I understand why you felt that way. But I will sincerely put in all my efforts to make my 2 beautiful daughters be happy and proud of me. I believe every small change begins with us. #GenderEquality
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Yes it does! A moe hill can be your mountain. but I’m gay and I know it feels like we had it just because I don’t fit other people’s mold. I hope your children are dealt with five bigots that would be great but thoughts can’t change people’s hearts if they could then I hope I would hope that people would change and see people all for a good qualities and not because someday think they’re better than that or better than people who are gay.
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My philosophy exactly too Vedha
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Wow! Very interesting! We are amazing and need to celebrate once per month at least.
Thank’s for share da-AL.
Nice day!
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Hi Elvira,
Thank you for reading it out and providing your valuable feedback. It means a lot. 🙂 #GenderEquality
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Hi Vedha,
A pleasure read, thank’s for your kindness. 🙂
Elvira.
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