“Bailaora (Flamenco Dancer)” 1945 by Enrique Herreros

On a Trip to the Ballroom by Frank

It boggles my mind that I”ve blogged since December 2015! This holiday season has been hectic, with little time to work on my novels (about them here), so it’s the perfect time to delve into the Happiness Between Tails archives. Here’s a long-ago guest blog post from Frank in Cincinnati, Ohio. In those days, he hosted a Frank Angle, which remains viewable, and nowadays he posts at Beach Walk Reflections. Both are lovely to visit, so it’s no wonder that this post is as fresh and fun as ever…

“Bailaora (Flamenco Dancer)” 1945 by Enrique Herreros
“Bailaora (Flamenco Dancer)” 1945 by Enrique Herreros

On a Trip to the Ballroom by Frank of BeachWalkReflections

It all started on 5th January 2006. I remember hearing about the competition in the previous series, but on this night I wanted to see Kenny Mayne, a studio personality on ESPN. My wife knew even less, but she also watched. Now it was done.

After dinner the next day, we gathered in our family room. My wife asked, “Don’t you want to see how it ends?” I wasn’t interested because I saw what I wanted – but she wanted to watch – so we did. Since then, we can use our fingers to count the number of episodes we’ve missed of Dancing with the Stars (DWTS).

DWTS became a topic within our dinner group as several others watched the show. In 2007 (I think), the hosting couple hired a local dance instructor to give the dinner group couples an introductory lesson. A few months later, I purchased an introductory package of ballroom dance lessons for my wife as a birthday gift.

That initial purchase led to other lessons … and then more lessons. Who knows how much money we’ve spent on dance since then, but we are still dancing and having fun!

No – we don’t have any glamorous outfits – those are very expensive – but outside of lessons, we’ve purchased shoes and attended numerous dance events. We don’t compete or perform – so no need for the glamour and glitz. We dance for fun!

Ballroom dance is a journey and more difficult than one may think. I recall our first lessons were in April, so we were excited to dance at an upcoming wedding 6-8 weeks later. We struggled at the wedding, so the lesson learned was to continue maximizing the Safe House for Dance – the studio where we take lessons.

We continued our weekly pattern of a private lesson, a group lesson, and the Friday night socials. That’s how you learn to dance. That’s how you increase your confidence. By the end of summer, we were ready to again try dancing in public.

That was our breakthrough dance. We felt confident enough not to worry, wise enough to know we still had a lot to learn, and comfortable enough to laugh after mistakes – stop and start again. A month later we were on a cruise ship where we danced every day – and had dance friends on ships. The rest is history.

We still take private lessons – still attend groups – still dance socially most weeks – we still don’t compete or perform – and we still enjoy it. We have a circle of dance friends, and know many other because of ballroom. Life is good.

For more of his writing, including videos of his nature walks, check out Franks site, Beach Walk Reflections, which came after his A Frank Angle.

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52 thoughts on “On a Trip to the Ballroom by Frank”

  1. I enjoyed this guest post and love the Bailaora artwork as it reminds me of Picasso’s work.

    I read in the comments about Strictly Come Dancing and was reminded that my partner’s mother is obsessed with this show. So much so that on Christmas day, she goes into the lounge room, turns on the TV, and watches the show. This is regardless of the family enjoying Christmas together in a different room. As they say, “To each their own”.

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  2. This is lovely, because I know from past experience that Frank loves ballroom, and it’s interesting to know how it all began. I seldom watch Dancing with the Stars- it’s a bit glitzy and show-off for my liking, but I’m an avid Strictly Come Dancing fan and have been from the very start. Strictly is becoming a bit too acrobatic and showbizz for me, but you can’t help but admire the professionals. Their skills and ability leave me breathless. And they do say, if you’ve got it, flaunt it! Anyway, enough from me. I do apologise d’Al that I never did take you up on your kind offer. Head like a sieve and nothing much stays in there for long. Wishing you a wonderful weekend!

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    1. I’m with you, not such a fan of acrobatics. Ballroom tango is different from Argentine tango and each has their love/haters. As far as the offer there’s no expiration

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