Hair Coloring 4 Men and All – Happiness Between Tails
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Writing this, I’d only just gotten my 4th Covid shot and was feeling woozy. Rather than working on my novels, for several days I slept, hence this post is short. Fortunately, as of this morning, I’m back to a very grateful normal. Besides the added immunity, I’m especially appreciative that for the first time since I got Covid a year and a half ago, earl grey tea doesn’t smell like moldy onions, and lemons don’t give off a chemical non-citrus fragrance. These things can come and go, so I’m almost superstitious about telling you that perhaps my long Covid is finished…
Wouldn’t life be so much easier if all good people wore white cowboy hats and bad ones wore black ones? Something, anything, to give us a one-size-fits-all way to sniff out flower-scented nice folk from stinking pee-yew creeps?
This is a plea for all of us to remember that intentions are everything.
Micro and macro aggressions definitely exist. To expect them before we’ve hardly laid eyes on someone, however, is to water seedlings of distrust and to give them free rein to take over.
It’s bad enough we had the Trump reign dividing us. Then came covid, with all the finger-pointing of who washed, masked, and vaccinated. Gender labels and pronouns (explained here by Suzanne Craig-Whytock) can be tricky for some (a video about it here) more than others. Lately I’ve read that inquiring into someone’s cultural background ought to be off limits.
Like I said, intentions are everything. Bearing that in mind, the world becomes a wonderful place.
Using differences as opportunities to learn more about each other, we build bridges. If someone asks us something, it’s okay to ask them why they want to know and not answer. Personally, I love learning about others and they’re often flattered that I’m interested. Allowing missteps to become gentle teaching moments, we learn what someone’s intentions are.
A couple of yoga class examples, from pre-pandemic days when I didn’t take zoom classes, that I know aren’t exactly the same thing but somehow relate:
- One day a classmate arrived a little late and was clearly frazzled. When she put down her mat, it blocked the view of a student behind her. The rear student fumed, yet didn’t say anything to the distracted yogini in front. “Yogic serenity” for everyone nearby, though, was decimated. Thank you, rear classmate, for teaching me that when someone later blocked my view, the answer was to tap their shoulder and gently ask them to move a few inches.
- Inside that yoga studio’s dressing room, the beleaguered rear classmate encountered a tote bag on the changing bench. She fumed that she couldn’t sit down. It wasn’t mine, but I placed it on the floor. Problem was solved.
When I shared these types of stories with a friend, she argued that one shouldn’t have to “shoulder the burden” of educating cretins. Bravo to anyone who’s never an ignoramus. Alas, I can and will be one all too often. Thank you, thank you, thank you nice people who’ve been gracious to me.
Please don’t let us all become so afraid of each other that we make ourselves miserable and we never mix with people unlike ourselves. Let’s try to assume the best, speak from our hearts, and think of each other as individuals we might have more in common with than not, rather than generalities.
(For sure this is off-topic — but just wonderin’ and to see whether you’re still with me — I recently was diagnosed as pre-diabetic. If you’re vegetarian and count carbs and/or glycemic load, yet avoid getting overloaded with fats and becoming a walking skeleton, what are your best tips?)
Being gracious costs nothing. Better yet, it doesn’t make anyone lose sleep, doesn’t raise blood pressure, and maybe even prevents someone from kicking their dog — or worse…
What do you do when a stranger gets on your nerves?
Happiness Between Tails by da-AL 
Thank you for sharing!!.. I try to be polite, a bit diplomatic and communicate.. first find out why the reason for the strangers actions to avoid a misunderstanding and then respond accordingly.. “For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness,
and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.” (Audrey Hepburn).. 🙂
Until we meet again..
May love and laughter light your days,
and warm your heart and home.
May good and faithful friends be yours,
wherever you may roam.
May peace and plenty bless your world
with joy that long endures.
May all life’s passing seasons
bring the best to you and yours!
(Irish Saying)
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great advice — communicating, asking questions, listening — yes 🙂
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Thank you for visiting and kind words!!.. 🙂
Hope you have a wonderful day today, and every day and until we meet again..
May your troubles be less
Your blessings be more
And nothing but happiness
Come through your door
(Irish Saying)
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Inspiring read, da-AL ! Thank you for sharing ! Aging and pre diabetic, I relax with reading and writing.
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I love that, Anita — my fave 2 things to do!
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I wish I would’ve had this dye advice years ago. I literally just decided to let my gray show. It’s been a ride.
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you are lovely whatever your hair color, Kathy, inside & out ❤
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The confrontation
with its own shadow
that is all
what a human
has to do with conscious living
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very well said, hgamma
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I like the saying: shoulder the burden of educating cretins. I often say there is no pill for stupid. I try and tell people when they are irritating me, in the nicest way possible. As for the pre-diabetes, have you heard of Chromium? I have been taking it for years and it is great for levelling my blood glucose levels.
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thanks for the tip, Tandy — will mention it to my doc 🙂
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I try to remove myself from the situation (if possible) when someone gets on my nerves. If that’s impossible, I think to myself, I only have to be with this person for a short time. Pity the person who lives with them.
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lolol love it, Pete!
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Reblogged this on Ned Hamson's Second Line View of the News.
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Pre-diabetic – do not add salt or sugar to anything. Dump dairy. Fall in love with rice and beans again. Add some exercise however you can. Old fashion toe touches, knee bends, stair stepping, walking are all fine. Currently I do 15 minutes of stair stepping a day. 100 knee bends, 100 toe touches and 100 mini push ups (leaning into counter for a couple of feet back). Start with a few and add a few each day – bends, steps, whatever. Losing some weight is key to getting blood sugar back to normal.
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good advice, Ned, excluding in my case I started a bit underweight — very glad to hear you’ve taken control of your health 🙂
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Nothing much. I try to ignore them.
4th dose already? Cool. I’m glad those nasty side-effects are over. Some of mine are still pretty much there. What a drag.
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hoping yours go away soon — it’s been a year for you, a little less than for me?
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Two times…That will do, thank you very much.
(I’m seeing a doctor in a couple weeks, just in case.)
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so sorry — again, sending my very best
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Thanks, hon
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Hi da-AL, I am not sure what I would do in the same situation but I would probably ask the person blocking my view to shift and move the bag. I didn’t quite follow your question about your pre-diabetic diagnosis. I thought it was mainly overweight people who ate to much sugar that got a diagnosis like that. It just goes to show that you can’t generalise. I have high blood pressure caused by stress and anxiety and I am not at all overweight.
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I’m surprised too, Robbie, tho not quite as much — my father was avid about healthy eating & exercise, slim, yet became diabetic in his 50s. his mom/my grandmother ate decently & was only a little ‘fluffy, yet got it in her 60s — so I’m taking this seriously.
you look great — but as we know, looks don’t tell us the full picture… am doing my best to learn how to prevent diabetes, which isn’t that easy for me, given that I was taking pretty good care of myself as it is…
I had higher blood pressure readings for a while after I was diagnosed with cancer — then by taking my blood pressure daily, I learned to control it with good thoughts — have your tried that? for one, thing, I always ask nurse to please be silent while they take it because hearing their questions about possible maladies doesn’t help me lol
also, for whatever it’s worth, what I’m reading about glycemic load plus benefits of daily walks (to activate ‘slow-twitch muscles’ such as how we don’t get tired of breathing, so it is good to do something that strains them a little) is purported to help with just about everything bodywise. if you’re interested, a book I’m thinking makes sense is The Insulin Resistance Solution by Rob Thompson, who is a cardiologist who got diabetes…
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Hi da-AL, thank you for the book recommendation. I will look for it on Amazon. I was shocked when I was diagnosed with high blood pressure as I am so careful about diet and was a vegetarian for years and years. I also instructed spinning in the gym and did cycling and weight lifting for many years. It is just work related stress and it drops to normal when I’m not working.
I am glad you are taking your condition seriously and sorting it out. Hugs.
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