Adulting and Videos + Why Darlene Foster Writes For Children

What was the day you became an adult? “Young Adult” (aka YA) is a major category when it comes to selling fiction, especially because people of all ages enjoy reading it. If I could swing it, I’d aim for that, rather than the harder sell of literary fiction, which the genre of the novels I’m working on.

Last week, I had the pleasure of seeing a couple of young people leave home to start college. In one case, friends were driving their son to begin university classes in San Jose, 400 miles north of Los Angeles. My husband and I flew to meet up with the parents and then the four of us enjoyed a leisurely drive back south.

Khashayar takes our photo as José and Alina look over his right shoulder. Our southbound cruise along Pacific Coast Highway included Santa Cruz Beach Boardwalk. Granted, it was a weekday, but it was still eerily quiet for peak summer season. Note the aerial ride is vacant, aside from a mannequin. Us, Dangerous Minds, Sudden Impact, Harold and Maude, and The Lost Boys, are some of the movies filmed there.
Khashayar takes our photo as José and Alina look over his right shoulder. Our southbound cruise along Pacific Coast Highway included Santa Cruz Beach Boardwalk. Granted, it was a weekday, but it was still eerily quiet for peak summer season. Note the aerial ride is vacant, aside from a mannequin. Us, Dangerous Minds, Sudden Impact, Harold and Maude, and The Lost Boys, are some of the movies filmed there.

Along the way, we also visited a young cousin from Spain who that very week relocated to attend college in Santa Barbara, a stunning affluent beach town.

These images are from that drive…

Khashayar walking into a super cold Big Sur stream.
Khashayar was steely enough to brave a super cold Big Sur stream.

Seeing these teens on the precipice of adulthood got me thinking of when I was their age and how I set out on my own.

Dear reader, what was that transition like for you?

The way I was raised, girls absolutely must not aspire to anything beyond the role of ultra meek wife, and mother. That was my father’s indoctrination, and my mom supported it, although she was also the family’s breadwinner.

By age seventeen, I resided in at least fourteen different apartments and attended about ten schools. That year, my parents and I lived in Miami, Florida.

Video Note: Piedras Blancas is the beach of choice for many elephant seals. Average males grow to 16 feet and 5,000 pounds, so babies risk getting smothered by them. Learn more about them here.

My sole plan was to make it out with my sanity intact and to never return, even if it meant resorting to prostitution. I set to earning good grades and a high school diploma. To save money, I worked at the local mall’s pet store and earring kiosk. My parents didn’t charge me for rent and food, and I saved my earnings, carefully spending only for needed doctor and dentist visits, and clothing.

My father greatly admired Pablo Picasso, a fellow Spaniard. Everything I’ve read about the famed artist paints him as a complete horror of a family man, so much so that even his grandkids still fume about him. My dad was fond of paraphrasing one of Picasso’s milder sentiments, which was that offspring should be given the boot the moment they reach eighteen, and they should never get financial help or guidance.

Video Note: The entire length of Pacific Coast Highway is phenomenal.

It was generous that my parents waited the extra couple of months between my birthday and graduation to move to Spain.

I want to kid myself and believe that’s when I left home. A little before they departed, my mother asked if I’d like to join them. The relief in her posture when I shook my head no was enough to deduce this was one move where an insubordinate wasn’t welcome. That’s when I realized it was me who was being abandoned.

My father’s farewell was more honest than hers. He shook my hand and said, “Look us up if you’re ever in Spain.”

They saved me feeling guilty and ambivalent. A whole new life was plenty enough to contend with.

Video Note: Morro Bay is famed for Morro Rock. The historical site was formed about 23 million years ago from the plugs of long-extinct volcanoes. While we visited, Otters were doing log-rolls and lounging tummy-up in the water, but they were too far off to snap a good photo.

The necessity for compassion is a running theme in my blog posts. Often I urge people to keep in mind our interdependency extends far beyond our families of origin. 

Lucky for me, a friend took me in. Her parents had completed a mean divorce and she lived with her dad. He spent his days smoking and drinking and lamenting his loss of work because of his drinking. He’d been a long-time executive at a major airline and now he was passing time until he could draw his pension. As un-promising as that may sound, he was kind and patient in a way I hadn’t experienced a man to be. He and his spirited daughter provided a good family to me. They gave me confidence and taught me the basics of adulthood.

K-D doggie was overjoyed when her people returned home and she loved getting her chest rubbed.
K-D doggie was overjoyed when her people returned home and she was in nirvana when Khashayar gave her an overdue chest rub.

As for young people, author/blogger Darlene Foster has written eight books for them (and everyone else) in ten years! She writes full-time from Spain, and also writes and does some editing for other writers. She says, “I also travel whenever I get the chance and consider it part of my research. It’s a good life.”

When I asked her to let us know how she went about getting published, she emailed back:

“It took me three years to write my first book and five years to find a publisher. I sent out query letters to many publishers around the world, received many polite rejection letters and eventually found a publisher in my own neighbourhood. Go figure! Central Avenue Publishing is an independent traditional publisher and I am very happy with the professionalism and dedication of my publisher. The lesson here is, never give up!”

Learn more about Darlene, her books, where to get them, and all her social media links, at her blog.

Photo of author Darlene Foster.
Photo of author Darlene Foster.

Why I Write For Children by Darlene Foster

(For an audio version of this post, click H-E-R-E.)

One of my favourite memories from my childhood is sitting on a large rock in the middle of a prairie field making up stories in my head. I had a wonderful childhood, although I didn’t always appreciate it at the time. I found it lonely, as I like being around people, and often wished I lived in a big, busy city. But it gave me plenty of time to daydream and create characters and adventures that later fuelled my desire to write. In grade three, I had a wonderful teacher who encouraged me to write down my stories. She also taught us about other countries in such a fun, interesting way that made me want to travel the world and meet interesting people. I owe her a lot and have since found her and thanked her for making a difference in my life. When I was twelve, one of my stories was published in the local newspaper. I decided then that I wanted to be a published writer one day.

Why did I choose to write children’s adventure books? I love writing for children, they are like sponges and eager to learn. They enjoy adventures and characters who can get themselves out of a tight spot. I can better express the excitement of travelling to new places when I write from the point of view of a child. 

Interestingly, many adults read my books and enjoy them as well. Kids’ books aren’t just for kids!

The stories in the Amanda Travels series are inspired by my real-life travel experiences.

When I visit an interesting place, I get a strong desire to share my experience with the rest of the world. The best way for me to do this is to write about it. I am always thinking of how I can work a setting or situation into a story. I take notes and many pictures during my travels and think about what would interest a young person. 

I have travelled to all the places Amanda has been. However, I do not have all the adventures Amanda has. She has more fun, excitement and scary experiences in her travels than I do. For instance, I took a riverboat cruise down the Danube with my best friend and our husbands a few years ago, on a boat called, The Sounds of Music. It was a trip of a lifetime, with stops in Germany, Austria, and Hungary. I knew immediately it would be the perfect setting for an Amanda and Leah adventure. Including music in the story was a no-brainer. This is how Amanda on the Danube: The Sounds of Music was conceived. 

On another occasion, I travelled to Taos, New Mexico with my aunt, who is also one of my best friends. We had such an amazing time. Besides being steeped in history, the place has a very paranormal feel about it. We even visited a haunted hotel in Cimarron. Everywhere we went, I kept saying, “Amanda would love it here.” When I returned home, I immediately started making notes which eventually became, Amanda in New Mexico: Ghosts in the Wind.

I love to read and so does Amanda. Books are important to both of us. When a vintage novel goes missing, Amanda feels compelled to find it. I love visiting the many used bookstores in England so I wanted to include one in the novel. I found a quintessential bookstore on the Isle of Wight which was perfect for the story, including a resident Main Coon cat. Rupert, the cat, plays an important role in Amanda in England: The Missing Novel.

My latest book in the series, Amanda in Malta: The Sleeping Lady was a result of a trip I took with my hubby a couple of years ago. I loved the history and culture of Malta and felt it would be an ideal setting for an Amanda Travels book. I tossed in some endangered birds, a missing artefact and a friend in danger. Amanda would do anything to help her friend. One reviewer said, “I love the author’s ability to bring the settings alive, from the Blue Grotto to a beautiful cathedral in Valletta, all while keeping the suspense high.”

Covers of some of the many books Darlene Foster has published.
Covers of some of the many books Darlene Foster has published.

It took me three years to write the first book, Amanda in Arabia: The Perfume Flask. It was a steep learning curve as I had so much to learn. I am still learning, but I can write a book in a year now. Keeping things fresh in a series is a challenge. I keep up with today´s young people, hang out with them and listen to their conversations. I introduce new characters in every book to keep it interesting. The character of Caleb, a classmate and good friend of Amanda’s was introduced in the New Mexico book. He was so well received he appears again in Amanda in Malta: The Sleeping Lady.

Publishing eight books in ten years is a huge accomplishment for me. I have also won prizes for my short stories and have had stories published in several anthologies. A milestone for me was visiting my former school in rural Alberta and reading from my books to the current students. Seeing my books available online, and on shelves at bookstores and libraries is the most incredible feeling. Having readers tell me they enjoy the stories and hope I write more is like a dream come true. 

If this is a dream, I don’t want to wake up!

Amanda is the twelve-year-old I would have liked to be. It is so much easier for kids to travel these days, but I didn’t travel on an airplane until I was in my mid-twenties. I would have so loved to see the world as a child. I am doing it now through my writing!  

That’s why I love writing for kids. (And grown-up kids)

What was the day you became an adult?

83 thoughts on “Adulting and Videos + Why Darlene Foster Writes For Children

  1. Jacqui Murray September 24, 2021 / 11:33 am

    Such a great post! Loved getting to know both of you better. Darlene–you know I’m one of those adults who enjoys your books. Keep on writing themd!

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    • Darlene September 25, 2021 / 5:43 am

      Thanks, Jacqui!! I love that you enjoy my books and encourage me to continue.

      Liked by 1 person

    • da-AL September 18, 2021 / 7:01 pm

      glad you liked it, Samantha 🙂


  2. DutchIl September 12, 2021 / 8:41 am

    Thank you for sharing a part of your world and lovely photos and videos!.. it is wonderful that Ms. Foster shares a part of her world with children as it no doubt helps the children believe their dreams are possible… “Life gives us brief moments with another, but sometimes in those brief moments we get memories that last a lifetime, So live that your memories will be part of your happiness.” (Author Unknown)…. 🙂
    As for me, I became an adult the minute my Mom sit me down at the table and told me I had to feed myself… 🙂

    Until we meet again..
    May love and laughter light your days,
    and warm your heart and home.
    May good and faithful friends be yours,
    wherever you may roam.
    May peace and plenty bless your world
    with joy that long endures.
    May all life’s passing seasons
    bring the best to you and yours!
    (Irish Saying)

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    • da-AL September 12, 2021 / 6:40 pm

      wise, as always 🙂


  3. roughwighting September 10, 2021 / 6:59 am

    Amanda has the life I’d have enjoyed as a 12-year-old as well! I love following Darlene in her blog as well as her wonderful Y.A. books. She shows us all how to be a successful author, and how to write the genre that is right for you.
    da-Al, your experience flying out of the nest (or almost booted out) is fascinating to me. Quite different from my perspective. I didn’t know how much I wanted to be on my own until my parents dropped me off at college my first year (17 years old). Within a week I felt a freedom I never knew I needed/wanted. From then on, I began to explore/discover who I was. I think it’s so important for teens, at that right age, to go off on their own but just as importantly, to have a home to return to for love and assurance.

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    • da-AL September 10, 2021 / 4:03 pm

      Pam, both you & Darlene are plenty inspo for any budding writer 🙂

      I’m glad you had an easy transition into independence. Some folks are so cozy at home that they never leave — others never want to return and it can offer an opportunity to start from scratch to create a whole new definition of ‘home.’

      What’s worked for me is to strive to turn experiences into stepping stones rather than quicksand.

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    • Darlene September 24, 2021 / 11:15 am

      Thanks, Pam. We all become adults in different ways.

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    • da-AL September 9, 2021 / 9:50 pm

      I’m so happy I can help 🙂


  4. That’s quite a life of a young girl!
    It’s too bad you had to go through feeling abandoned.
    I love reading your stories and also interviews. I can see that we’ve grown up in as different places and in different countries with completely opposite life styles. And we become good adults, nevertheless. My grandsons are 22 and 18. I do not allow them calling me grandmother, never did. Well, I look much younger, ha, ha.
    Well, it was extremely different during my youth years. My family always supported me, but I moved to the Latvian capital city Riga when I was 17 to start studying at University, moved alone, lived alone and then in a student hostel. I made a lot of mistakes, didn’t listen to parents, but, thankfully, everything had a good end.
    I liked living on my own, just loved it. We learned very early to cook and look after ourselves since parents had to work, 6 days a week, that is, long hours. It was the Soviet Latvia at that time. Education was excellent, though, and they paid me for studying and having only excellent grades, so I bought numerous books during that time. No TV, no internet obviously, not even a radio where I lived, all you could do was study and read. For me that was also sewing all my own clothes and drawing. Cooking was never a problem, I cooked for the entire family since I was 12.
    I like what great person came out of the life you had as a young person. I hope you didn’t hold grudge because it’s never worth it. Moving on definitely is.

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    • da-AL September 9, 2021 / 12:06 am

      thanks for your kind and thoughtful words, Inese. we all do our best & some of our luck has to do with the basic personalities we were born with. I don’t hold grudges for past, for reason you said, though when people continue to act as if I was & am a bad person for seeking what’s best for me, that’s harder to set aside…


  5. Stella, oh, Stella September 5, 2021 / 12:57 pm

    I don’t know where to begin … the nature videos are so great!
    As far as your story is concerned, we did notice likenesses between our childhoods, but I left home, because I wanted to live alone and be on my own, because my family was simply too much. I could not bear the constant fights etc. That did not make me an adult though. I am not sure anymore what signifies an adult, actually. Is it when we get disenchanted? I get disenchanted sometimes, but then hope comes up again. So it seems like I am “incorrigible”?

    The idea to turn one’s own travels into novels is a splendid one! I mean it deepens one’s own experiences in a way and more. I think I will recommend Amanda’s stories to my niece, when she is a bit older. (She will be nine next March, maybe that is a bit too young? Maybe not? She loves adventures.) May Darlene give the world many more Amanda adventures! 🙂

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    • Darlene September 5, 2021 / 1:26 pm

      Thank you so much, Stella. I do have fun reliving my travels through the eyes of a young person. The books are geared toward readers from 8 to 12 years old. Although some as young as 6 are reading and enjoying them. So your niece is a perfect age. Let’s hope we never get disenchanted and always stay hopeful!!

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      • Stella, oh, Stella September 5, 2021 / 1:29 pm

        Oh, that is good to hear! I am glad that both my brother’s children love books. Nowadays kids not always do … 😉

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        • Darlene September 6, 2021 / 3:42 am

          That´s great. I am always so pleased when I visit schools and libraries to see that many children still enjoy reading books!

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          • Stella, oh, Stella September 6, 2021 / 11:51 pm

            A book has the definite advantage that it can be taken to a silent, hidden corner, in the house or outside … 🙂

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    • da-AL September 5, 2021 / 2:40 pm

      the q of how one defines adulthood is a good one, Birgit — maybe I need to ask that in a future post 🙂

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