Videos plus Happy Un-Father’s Day by da-AL

Screenshot of Josh's video from No Dad? No Problem! shoutout for me!No Dad? No Problem!‘s” shoutout for me — get yours too!

Whenever a holiday looms, my first reaction is to gag at all the goopy generalities that pop up more vigorously than do the weeds in my lawn. At least those I can pull up. But what do I do with celebrations that dictate only one way to feel?

Take, for instance, Father’s Day. Everywhere, right about this time of year, are messages of how wonderful dads are. Okay, let’s say that some fathers are. And a bunch aren’t, right? The same goes for Mother’s Day and “blessed is the family” designated events such as Xmas, Thanksgiving (and don’t get me started on other sundry celebrations).

Back to Father’s Day. No matter how relentlessly someone tries to gaslight me into their parallel universe, the fact remains tht mine wasn’t “nice,” to use a shorthand for all the ways he was relentlessly “awful” (an understatement). Writers who go into detail about stuff like that deserve the utmost respect. But if I elaborate further now, my loved ones will be stuck with a glum me for the rest of the day.

Besides, my purpose here is to, a) remind you that it’s okay to not get warm fuzzies over any kin-dedicated day — and, b) to let you know about a way to enjoy an avatar father! A do-over of the very best kind!

Some people are scared of strangers. From childhood on, they were most comforted “in the bosom of family” (a term that for me conjures only snarky innuendos). My growing up was the other way around. I love strangers. Some could be dangerous, but ditto for relatives. Better still, with strangers, there are no expectations. Moreover, they don’t have to be in my home.

Any nicety from a new person warms my heart better than finding treasure on the sands of a long-deserted beach. Ta dah! Enter Virtual Dad!

During my ongoing education that’s poised toward a future podcast of my novels, I googled some things about microphones. After bumbling upon Josh’s Youtube channel and thanking him for the info, I saw his offer to record personalized fatherly praise.

Cynic that I can be, I almost didn’t ask, figured nothing (or worse) would come of it. Then, to prove my own point to myself, I typed in a request…

Waddya know?! — within a matter of days, he answered with this. Basically, all I’d said was that I was working to publish my first podcast episode. Clearly, he researched my blog so he could get the shoutout just right. Plus he pronounced my name perfectly…

…and wouldn’t you know it, I surprised myself by how it bowled me over! He doesn’t ask for cash, he doesn’t proselytize, and thank goddess he’s neither racist nor bigoted — he’s just — dare I type this? — a decent person.

His Youtube “about” page tells how he — wait for it — basically wants to be a good father to his own four kids and to help others along the way. He describes everything from how to shave and how to avoid scammers, to the three best ways for young people to succeed in life and how to whip up easy eats like a grilled cheese sandwich golden and crispy enough to smell through the screen.

To be clear, dear readers, I’m not into guns whatsoever. In your interest, I watched his episode on them. Hallelujah, he wasn’t promoting gun ownership and he prefaced his talk with extensive stats on how truly dangerous they are and seriously they must be taken. Having served in the United States Air Force for twenty years, some of his duty in Afghanistan, and losing many friends, his weapons experience is vastly different from mine.

In addition, despite that I’m a vegetarian, for your sakes I sat through his chicken grilling DIY. His interspersed recount of a near-killing incident was in no way self-aggrandizing, was totally sober and compassionate. He’s obviously from a different culture than I was raised in and definitely overly young to be a real dad to me — but that’s just fine. I don’t ache for a father, not in the least. That said, the aforementioned sincere kindness of strangers has always served me well.

Essense of dad? Eau de dad? Dad-ness? It’s all good. Maybe it will be for you too?

If you’re not into father stuff, but appreciate something vaguely in the same vast range, here’s this…

There you go, friend. For anyone anywhere yearning for kind words from a father-ish nice adult any time of the year, and for whom Opie’s dad character on the Andy Griffith TV shows isn’t interactive enough, consider a virtual alternative.

Have you ever felt Happy Un-Father’s Day-ish? If you know of anyone or want someone to understand, please share this post. Maybe they’ll find comfort in that Un-Father’s Day, any day of the year, is okay.

36 thoughts on “Videos plus Happy Un-Father’s Day by da-AL

  1. Hey da-AL, I understand how you feel … My father is ok, and my mother wasn’t awful all the time, but she did awful things (to me) that mothers aren’t supposed to do to their children (nothing sexual in case you are wondering …) … I forgave and forgot when I was a child and kept on loving her … but when I grew older, she did something I can not forgive and now we haven’t seen or spoken to each other for several years …

    Also … Josh is not a lady but I could use his fatherly praise, because my dad never offered me any praise !! … and I guess he won’t ever

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    • so sorry, my dear. yes, as kids, we must forgive because we are 200% dependent on them — but as adults, a context starts to form, ie ‘would I have done that?’ & ‘would I do this now?’ & that puts things in a whole new light… if Josh doesn’t resonate for you, have since noticed that there are others like him if you google — would love to hear if you find mom sorts of sites! (tho I doubt it…) – have a great day 🙂

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  2. What a great, alternative view. I won’t go on to boast about my dad, but if he hadn’t been up to the job, I’d have been very grateful for these pointers. As it is, I’m just glad to know of other lovely people in the world. Thanks for the introductions.

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  3. Wow the videos are awesome da-AL but like you I too never had a great childhood with my father as my mom and he got divorced but that is life though my children love their father as my husband has been a good father to them. So my daughter will give him a surprise lunch at our house and celebrate Father’s Day. Thanks for your beautiful share.

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  4. Interesting, da-AL, I have similar views on family in general and mine especially, which is, that it is overrated. I have better friends outside my family, friends I can rely on, when I need them.
    My father did not treat us kids badly, but my mother. That is not the very best to watch as a child. That and the bad relationship with my mother made me move out when I was 18 years old.
    But it is true, they did what they thought was best, and didn’t know better. And I guess my father should never have married and gotten kids.

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