4. Ever been told…?

Photo of da-AL as little girl with text: Ever been told cute girls aren't smart & are better off that way?

Ever been told cute girls aren’t smart and that they’re better off staying that way?

20 thoughts on “4. Ever been told…?”

  1. I my self have never been told that, but an older African American teacher shared at one of my seminars that when she was having trouble with math in 1st grade, a kindly teacher said, “Don’t worry, dear, you’re so pretty that you don’t need math in our life; just make sure you find a good husband.” She eventually made sure to become a high school math teacher!

    Liked by 1 person

  2. No, never, that wasn’t a thing that would be said or even thought in my family. I met those attitudes first when I started to work, and then I laughed at them. I was never really cute, playing my feminine attributes or so that wasn’t me. Still I never had a lack of admirers. 😉

    I never liked this differentiating between women and men. I always thought that every person has the right in its own way, to live the way he or she wants, as long as it didn’t hurt others, but let’s do away with this drawer thinking. Some women want to be housewives and mothers, some want professional careers, let them do as they choose without looking down on each other.

    Liked by 2 people

  3. Yes. And I thank my stars for having had a mother who was herself very intelligent and did not believe the stereotypes. She did not encourage me EVER to behave like a “cute little girl.” Being of an age where the stereotypes existed, I did not have a large group of girlfriends, but usually had one or two high-achieving friends who felt the same way I did. Did I miss the giggle clusters? No. And I abhor hearing women giggle to this day.

    Liked by 3 people

  4. Well there is the old ‘dumb blonde” thing, and the old ‘blonds have more fun’ thing. I’ve never been cute or blonde but I’ve always been smart and had fun. Then again a girl friend, a blond, once said to me “Men look at blondes first but look at brunettes longer”.

    Liked by 5 people

Share the joy: click buttons and engage with us. *** Note: WordPress insists ‘likers’ sign in. ‘Commenters,’ fortunately, need not. My email: ContactdaAL@gmail.com

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.