Saying “No!” to the Holidays is OK by da-AL


Wish the holidays would just go away? It’s ok to say, “No!” to them. The following post is important enough to repeat…

Holidays can be nice — and terrible! Family can bring us to our knees — both to swoon and to cringe. Romance can make our hearts flutter or seize.

From Halloween to New Year’s, at least here in the U.S., 24/7 we’re inundated with messages of how this is the time for families and lovers. We’re instructed to either kiss, or to kiss and make up.

fullsizerender-5Sometimes they’re not possible. At times, they aren’t in our best interest.

Traditional or sacred, I invite you to join me in acknowledging that some holiday seasons are best ignored. It’s ok to give them a rest. Some years, it’s fine if we just get through them!

We’re allowed to do whatever it takes to mark time, to survive, to thrive through and into gentle holiday-clear January.

51 thoughts on “Saying “No!” to the Holidays is OK by da-AL

  1. I like the twinkly lights, the music, the classic movies and that my anti-commercialism husband is not into store bought gifts. But I do not like the build up to frenzy which makes me glad it’s over so I can get back to a comforable routine. Saying no can be a very good thing.

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  2. And you know, the older I get the more important it is for me to remember that! Though I constantly argue with my sister the “traditionalist” about it! LOL I think as we age we realize we just don’t need all the trappings any more to make things meaningful to us. Appreciate you post. 😀

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  3. The interesting thing is that sometimes you start the holiday season with high hopes only to find out at the most inappropriate time that it is going down the drain. I guess some might call it a character builder, but I just view it as a total bust. Oh well, there’s always next year – maybe. 🙂

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  4. An interesting thought! At this time of the year there is certainly great pressure to “join in” and “celebrate”, which basically means overindulging, overspending, and other excesses. The strength to ignore … is not just a vital strength to develop at this time of the year though, but at other times and during other experiences.

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  5. I am happy when Jan1st comes along. Thanksgiving is great because it’s not commercial. My favorite thing about Xmas is hanging with 6-8 family members, including adult nieces and nephews from Xmas eve to Xmas day. We eat, play games and laugh in our pjs. Not a lot of gifts and a lot of fun.

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  6. I think the over-commercialization can get us down sometimes – we feel like we’re not living up to standards when the standards are all just promotional hype to sell more stuff. The best way to celebrate holidays is the way that is meaningful to you, no matter what anyone else thinks.

    Daal, I wish you a relaxed, meaningful month doing what you love best.

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    • Thank you, Sharon – & you too! This year I’m having the non-crumudgeon type. At the same time want to bolster those who, like me at times, wish it would just go away. Yes, in commercial sense, but also in terms of over-high expectations that it be happy & social.

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